Your Legacy Begins with Your Belief.
But what is Mindset?
And how does one change it?
"A mindset is a belief that orients the way we handle situations—the way we sort out what is going on and what we should do" and "Mindsets aren’t just any beliefs. They are beliefs that orient our reactions and tendencies. They serve a number of cognitive functions. They let us frame situations: they direct our attention to the most important cues, so that we’re not overwhelmed with information."
HOW TO CHANGE OR GROW MINDSET
"Talking yourself into a new belief is hardly the way to go about it. We change our minds when we experience things differently. But to experience it, we first need to question the belief (emphasis added) so that the doubt will make room for a new set of behaviors."
Where does my Legacy begin?
Welcome to the Legacy Living Today podcast!
I'm Dawn Baggett and I am so excited to have you join me here today where together, we can explore ways in which we can intentionally choose to break free from the tyranny of the urgent and apathy of the everyday to live legacy every day -- one day at a time!
This week's topic:
Where does my legacy begin?
What do you think of when you think of the word, legacy?
Do you think of inheritance of great sums of money or do you think of someone who is famous or well-known? This might be part of a someone’s legacy, but I think legacy means so much more than that!
A legacy is evidence of a life well lived — at least a good legacy should be! This doesn’t mean that you never make mistakes or that you’re perfect; of course not! Even some people who are well-known for their great legacies often have a less than stellar chapter of life.
There are many well-known legacy makers throughout history. In particular, there are many legacy makers documented In the Bible who give us examples of how we should or should not go about building our legacies.
In Hebrews 11 there’s this to say about Abel in verse 4: “He speaks even though he is dead.”
Your legacy is what your life tells others, even after you’re no longer there to tell about it personally.
Here’s the full verse from Hebrews 11 (known as the Hall of Faith):
"Abel had faith. So he offered to God a better sacrifice than Cain did . Because of his faith, Abel was praised as a godly man. God said good things about his offerings. Because of his faith Abel still speaks. He speaks even though he is dead.”
Abel’s is a Legacy of Faith. This whole chapter is a list from the Old Testament of Biblical Legacy Makers whose legacy of faith still impacts people today!
So Legacy is going to be more of how you live out your life in ways that matter for the here and now -- plus that leave a lasting impact into the future.
Another aspect of building your legacy is that it is not just making a name for oneself.
A great legacy is more about affecting others in good and lasting ways, either by example or because of some good that provides ongoing help or benefits to other people that outlive the legacy-maker.
Let’s narrow it down and look at a few of the women but certainly we learn from the examples of men and even some children and of course, our greatest biblical example is Jesus. But let’s look at just 2-3 women here.
Remember the story of Moses? Well think about his mom.
“Moses' parents had faith. So they hid him for three months after he was born. They saw he was a special child. They were not afraid of the kings' command.”
You remember the kings' command to the midwives that the Hebrew's babies would be killed! If you’re familiar with this story, think about Moses’ sister - the young girl who secretly watched over baby Moses when he was floating in the basket on the river; when the King, the pharaoh’s daughter and her maidens came to the river and found baby Moses, this brave slave girl approached them and offered to get someone (who turned out to be Moses‘s mother) to nurse the child so that he wouldn’t die!
And think about the midwives - women who chose to defy the royal order and not kill the Hebrew babies! All of these women were legacy makers in their lifetimes.
I challenge you to go back and read Hebrews 11, and then read the full story about one or two of those mentioned, like Rahab the prostitute (hint: prostitution is NOT her claim to fame).
Do you want to build a legacy with your life? According to verse 6 of the same chapter it starts here, let me read:
“ Without faith it is impossible to please God. Those who come to God must believe that he exists. And they must believe that he rewards those who look to him.”
So - YOUR Legacy of Faith begins NOT with the doing, but with BELIEF.
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But it is more damaging to stay stuck there. Building a resilience to rejection is something we can work on —especially if past hurts and traumas have caused us to constantly or frequently view life through the lenses of rejection.
I’m not an expert, but I have learned through my own experiences that it is a process that we need to participate in for our own good. When rejection hits hard and goes deep, it can take specialized help to work through and come out on the other side. As you work through rejection and acquire a personal toolbox of sorts, you’ll be better equipped for any type of rejections in the future.
...or read from the show notes below.
***This week's topic:***
Getting rejected, whether it’s for a career position or in a relationship, can be one of the most challenging events you’ll ever experience. So it may be hard to believe that there is a silver lining when it comes to rejection, but it's true!
There are some positives about being rejected.
Consider these points whenever you’ve gone through an experience involving rejection:
1.You may get a “do over.” Or a second chance. A rejection likely signals an end of something.
Perhaps it’s the end of a romantic relationship. Or maybe it’s the end of going through a tedious process of a job search.
Whatever the case, when a rejection occurs, something new is about to
begin. Maybe you’ll be able to date again. Perhaps you’ll settle back in to
your current job with renewed efforts.
You get to start over when rejection occurs and that can be a real “plus.”
2.You have time to reflect on the rejection. You can ask yourself, "What part did I play in this situation?"
When you ponder how you behaved, the actions you took, and how you
might have affected others throughout whatever transpired before and
during the rejection, it can be enlightening.
Take a few moments to think about how you conducted yourself through
the situation. Be glad for the time you now have to increase your
Figuring out anything you might have done or not done can help you with a
different approach in the future.
3. Ask yourself, “What, if anything, do I want to change about myself?” If you
wish to change something about yourself, go for it!
Especially after a rejection, it’s good to re-focus back on yourself for a while.
4. Acknowledge the fate aspect of the situation. Perhaps it was fate. There may be something more fulfilling, enticing, or adventurous waiting for you around the next corner.
5. Take the bull by the horns and make some plans for your future.
What life goals do you have?
What do you need to be doing right now to get closer to
Use the clarity you have after the rejection to motivate you.
6.What did you learn from the experience?
Jot down what you learned about
yourself, the situation, the other person involved, the interview process, or
whatever else it may be.
Perhaps you learned to prepare more for your interviews in the future.
Maybe you discovered you should have listened to your gut when it told
you not to get involved with that person. Perhaps you realize now that
you gave too much in a situation without expecting anything in return.
Figure out what you learned from the process. You will undoubtedly be able
to use that information later.
7. Get to the point where you can say, “It was worth it.”
Every life experience
gives us something.
After you figure out what you learned, then you can acknowledge that whatever you went through was worth it.
The silver lining of rejection allows you a “do over.” You get time to think about the part you played in the situation. You get an opportunity to make changes in yourself and acknowledge that fate took its course.
You have a renewed option to make plans for your future and determine what you learned from the experience. Ultimately, the silver lining is that you can say,
“It was worth it.”
•Learn to move forward with confidence and purpose after a rejection.
•Rediscover your passion for life.
•Renew your efforts to discover the pathway toward the life of your
When you’re in the thick of rejection and can’t see past the painful lense of rejection, remember, Jesus was rejected and experienced the pain of rejection far greater than any we experienced. He can relate to us in our pain. And we can relate to him.
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Welcome to the Legacy Living Today podcast! I'm Dawn and I am so excited to have you join me here today. Together we can explore ways to intentionally choose to break free from the tyranny of the urgent and decide to live legacy every day -- one day at a time!
Emotional self-awareness drives empathy for others. Whether in parenting or getting along with co-workers & a multitude of other relationships. If you're getting or giving the empathy advice you're not alone. "Just have empathy" can seem like a pat answer or even a shameful put-down when you've got a difficult situation or relationship issue.
I don't know if you are railing against the "you should have more empathy" mantra that's become so popular now or feeling shamed by it, (or posting it all over the place for others to see and magically solve all the relational problems of the world), but today I'd like to take a different perspective.
Let's explore -- What if empathy for others does not begin with understanding them, but with understanding yourself.
Could understanding ourselves help us have more empathy for others?
And in that same vein, as a parent of children with developmental mental-emotional delays I could ask a related question: Could my child's lack of understanding their own emotional reactions hinder his ability to show empathy for others?
Ahh...it's getting a little more complex here.
But let's simplify.
Let's focus just on personal emotional understanding & awareness. This is a biggie!
If I'm to have empathy for instance for my child who is "acting out" as we say, I need to have some understanding of what is pushing that behavior. That doesn't mean I agree with or approve of the behavior but we're talking about the child behind the behavior here.
To have some degree of understanding I'll need to relate in some manner. Pulling from my own life experiences I can understand sadness, anger, frustration, surprise . . . even contempt, embarrassment, shame...excitement, fear, confusion & others.
But if my only emotional reference is Sad, Mad & Glad -- then I am not going to have the ability to understand my own emotional states and reactions nor anyone else's to the degree necessary to be able to drum up much empathy for anyone.
As a parent, I'm certainly not going to be able to help teach these to my child who already struggles in this area of emotional awareness if sad, mad & glad or happy is all I have to reference.
So what do you think, can spending time on becoming self-aware of your own emotional states, reactions, and how that impacts you, in turn, help you become a more empathetic person and further, help you help your child or others?
Take a guess, how many basic emotions do you think there are? three, five, 10? Of course, it depends on who you ask & I'm no expert. It can help to boil things down to just a handful in some cases, but when we're talking about empathy and understanding at a more individual level it can help to further define what's going on.
What number did you say?... I'm linking an article I saw with 27 BASIC EMOTIONS! Not 3, 5 . . . 27!!
So this isn't even an exhaustive list!
Look in the podcast description for this resource (I didn't write it) & then for fun, see if you can further narrow down your own emotions in the coming week and see how you do. Then see if you can begin to notice any of them in others. Your spouse, child, co-worker, or boss. You may want to share the list and get your family to do the activity with you. Let's begin to build a legacy of empathy today, by getting to know ourselves better.
Leave me a message if this week's topic resonates with you. I'd be delighted to hear from you!
**Thanks for listening to this episode of Legacy Living Today. Legacy Living Today is a new podcast for women like you with a vision and desire to make a long-lasting impact with your most valuable asset -- your one precious life-- to explore together how we can live legacy — one day at a time.
Share this podcast with other legacy ladies and leave me a message. I'd be delighted to hear from you!