You know how caretaker moms in survival mode
struggle with taking care of their own needs?
What I do is provide validation & perspective;
encourage them to make a plan with action steps
that will make it impossible for my clients to
remain exhausted, burnt out & worn down.
I’ve been there and know how it is to be caring for the needs of others so intensely that you miss out on taking care of your own needs. You might feel like you need someone to take care of you! You're willing to sacrifice for the good of your loved ones. You are a mama-bear! You're a warrior woman!! Your family is important to you and you willingly put forth the effort for them. But the daily-ness is wearing you down and sometimes you feel like you're stuck in a deep pit with no apparent way out, and it becomes harder and harder to find your zest for getting up each day. You’d love a vacation but you’d probably just sleep through it anyway.
As the saying goes, be sure to put on your own oxygen mask first, before assisting others.
That’s good advice for immediate needs. But it’s realistic to pull out all the stops and to put many of your own needs on hold to an extent in an urgent or crisis situation. Sure you are surviving. And survival mode is do-able in the short run.
It's when the crisis situation isn't quickly resolved and goes on and on . . and the needs that you as the caretaker have have gone unmet and under-met for more than a short-term basis, that it’s time to change gears. But how? It’s time to get a new perspective and make the changes necessary for the longer term that will benefit you and the one you’re caring for.
I got you . . .
Personal Plan with Action Steps:
As a trauma-informed, transformational life coach I offer individual coaching to help you formulate your own personal plan with actionable steps for taking you out of survival mode and into progress and sustainability for the long term with a realistic and practical approach suited to your unique situation.
Just that first step of creating your initial plan can bring great relief. I’m also available as you begin to put that plan in place and take those specific actions that will bring you more relief, get you out of survival mode and into feeling more like your best self again.