Sooner or later all of us will have dealt with rejection. Whether big or small, rejection hurts. It can be very difficult to recognize ANYTHING positive through the painful lens of rejection.
But it is more damaging to stay stuck there. Building a resilience to rejection is something we can work on —especially if past hurts and traumas have caused us to constantly or frequently view life through the lenses of rejection.
But it is more damaging to stay stuck there. Building a resilience to rejection is something we can work on —especially if past hurts and traumas have caused us to constantly or frequently view life through the lenses of rejection.
I’m not an expert, but I have learned through my own experiences that it is a process that we need to participate in for our own good. When rejection hits hard and goes deep, it can take specialized help to work through and come out on the other side. As you work through rejection and acquire a personal toolbox of sorts, you’ll be better equipped for any type of rejections in the future.
And perhaps you might even be able to look back and recognize the silver lining...LISTEN to REJECTION’S SILVER LINING
...or read from the show notes below.
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Getting rejected, whether it’s for a career position or in a relationship, can be one of the most challenging events you’ll ever experience. So it may be hard to believe that there is a silver lining when it comes to rejection, but it's true!
There are some positives about being rejected.
Getting rejected, whether it’s for a career position or in a relationship, can be one of the most challenging events you’ll ever experience. So it may be hard to believe that there is a silver lining when it comes to rejection, but it's true!
There are some positives about being rejected.
Consider these points whenever you’ve gone through an experience involving rejection:
1.You may get a “do over.” Or a second chance. A rejection likely signals an end of something.
Perhaps it’s the end of a romantic relationship. Or maybe it’s the end of going through a tedious process of a job search.
Whatever the case, when a rejection occurs, something new is about to
begin. Maybe you’ll be able to date again. Perhaps you’ll settle back in to
your current job with renewed efforts.
You get to start over when rejection occurs and that can be a real “plus.”
Recognize it.
2.You have time to reflect on the rejection. You can ask yourself, "What part did I play in this situation?"
When you ponder how you behaved, the actions you took, and how you
might have affected others throughout whatever transpired before and
during the rejection, it can be enlightening.
Take a few moments to think about how you conducted yourself through
the situation. Be glad for the time you now have to increase your
self-awareness.
Figuring out anything you might have done or not done can help you with a
different approach in the future.
3. Ask yourself, “What, if anything, do I want to change about myself?” If you
wish to change something about yourself, go for it!
Especially after a rejection, it’s good to re-focus back on yourself for a while.
4. Acknowledge the fate aspect of the situation. Perhaps it was fate. There may be something more fulfilling, enticing, or adventurous waiting for you around the next corner.
5. Take the bull by the horns and make some plans for your future.
What life goals do you have?
What do you need to be doing right now to get closer to
achieve them?
Put some plans into place so you know exactly where you’re headed.
Use the clarity you have after the rejection to motivate you.
Use the clarity you have after the rejection to motivate you.
6.What did you learn from the experience?
Jot down what you learned about
yourself, the situation, the other person involved, the interview process, or
whatever else it may be.
Perhaps you learned to prepare more for your interviews in the future.
Maybe you discovered you should have listened to your gut when it told
you not to get involved with that person. Perhaps you realize now that
you gave too much in a situation without expecting anything in return.
Figure out what you learned from the process. You will undoubtedly be able
to use that information later.
7. Get to the point where you can say, “It was worth it.”
Every life experience
gives us something.
After you figure out what you learned, then you can acknowledge that whatever you went through was worth it.
The silver lining of rejection allows you a “do over.” You get time to think about the part you played in the situation. You get an opportunity to make changes in yourself and acknowledge that fate took its course.
You have a renewed option to make plans for your future and determine what you learned from the experience. Ultimately, the silver lining is that you can say,
“It was worth it.”
•Learn to move forward with confidence and purpose after a rejection.
•Rediscover your passion for life.
•Renew your efforts to discover the pathway toward the life of your
dreams!
When you’re in the thick of rejection and can’t see past the painful lens of rejection, remember, Jesus was rejected and experienced the pain of rejection far greater than any we experienced. He can relate to us in our pain. And we can relate to him.
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