DIY Hair Putty

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Are you tired of using hair products filled with questionable ingredients? This blog post has the perfect solution for you! 

I struggled to find a hair putty that met my standards, so I decided to make my own using natural ingredients.
With just beeswax, coconut oil, shea butter, honey, and essential oils of your choice (preferably from Young Living), you can create a sassy and textured look in no time. 

The mixture is easy to make and can be used on both wet and dry hair. 

While the current texture is hard, I suggest trying to whip the product while it's cooling to achieve a more creamy consistency. 

Overall, this DIY hair putty is a win for personal care products.

You'll find the ingredients and how to below. 

1/4 cup beeswax
2 tbs shea butter 
1/4 tsp honey 
Essential oils of choice 

Create a double boiler and add all of your ingredients minus the essential oils. 

Melt everything down on a medium to low heat. 

Once melted, remove from heat, pour in jar of choice and continue to stir. 

Add your essential oils (15 drops total) to your mix. 
I personally use cedarwood, rosemary and lavender and purchase my oils from Young Living.

Mix and let harden. 

I've used this on dry hair and wet. It does exactly what I required to create that textured looked. 
I would consider this an easy DIY and win for personal care products. 

Next time, I will try to whip the product while it's cooling to see if it leaves it a more creamy texture. 
The current state is hard but once you get it between the fingers, you can easily work it. 

Shifting To Positive Parenting

Shifting To Positive Parenting

I can vividly remember moments as a child that I was having a tantrum or acting out over something. I can remember sitting on the sofa crying and just wanting someone to ask me if things were ok. To assure me that it was safe to talk to them if needed. 

I had multiple siblings and parents who would laugh as I yelled, screamed, cried and swore because I was so upset. They called me "Helly" anytime I would have a tantrum. 

All I needed was for someone to talk and listen to what was going on. 

Times were different then. I think every generation has their experience with trauma and how they were raised. 

My parents would have experienced physical discipline. By hand or belt. That was the social norm then, even teachers would use that way of “teaching” right from wrong. 

Then my generation where you typically experienced a lot of yelling, blame and shame which ultimately set you up in an environment to lie, close off and not feel comfortable to talk it out. 

I wonder if that's a reason why anxiety is at an all time high for people in my generation. 

Growing up feeling really shitty about the emotions you were experiencing, that it was important to “tuffin up” which ultimately left you feeling worse about having emotions and what you were thinking. 

How can kids do better in that environment? How can kids learn and grow from the emotions and feelings they are experiencing? 

Being a mom to two girls can be challenging. The attitudes, the emotions, the lack of listening...but my heart wanted so badly to be a positive influence and role model in my girls lives. I wanted them to experience positive parenting, to know that I was and am a safe place for them. I wanted to break the cycle for them. 

BUT things started to take a turn...for the worse.

I was becoming a mom I didn't recognize....I found myself experiencing mom rage more often than I wanted to admit. 

I was finding myself going to bed sad or crying because of the yelling match I just had with my 6 year old. I was feeling extreme guilt over every little outrage that would happen. 

Bedtime was a nightmare. Often someone in tears. 

I was feeling at an all time low with my parenting strategies. My heart knew that a shift had to happen. 

I knew that the things I was doing (yelling, stomping off in frustration, playing the blame and shame game with my kids) needed to end. I knew positive parenting techniques were top priority and in order to break the cycle it had to start by me learning to change what I knew as parenting strategies. 

That's when I reached out on my social media and asked other mommas for some suggestions. Books, podcasts, name it, they recommended it to me. Something I’ve been beyond thankful for. 

I bought a few of the recommended books and followed some of the pages or groups and the wealth of information that is out there is truly amazing. 

So here I am, on this new journey of breaking the cycle. Committing to continue to educate myself on ways I can positively raise my children to be kind, smart, independent and strong women in this world. Who will stand up for the things they believe in, to not feel guilt over the emotions they are experiencing and to know that good and positivity trumps fear and negativity. 

Knowledge is power and when we come together to share the resources we have and the things we know, only good can come from that. 

I am so excited to lead a Positive Parenting book club over in my online community. Where we meet once a week to chat about current books we are reading to increase our knowledge on positive parenting strategies and implement them into our own lives. Thus making a major shift on the future generations. 

It's never to late to implement positive parenting tools with your kids. If making a shift to positive parenting is a journey you want to start, feel free to head over to our free FB community for support. 

If you'd like to see what books we are reading in our book club, go ahead and click the button below to check out where we are and how you can grab your book to follow along!


Have you ever just instantly felt guilt? 

Guilty of not being enough for someone. Not doing enough in the household. Not being a good enough mother. 

I have felt that guilt often. When I look around my kitchen and see the mess, I feel guilty for not cleaning it up..but to be honest.. some days I'm just exhausted. I'm overwhelmed. It spirals my anxiety a little more out of control. 

Guilt for the mom rage I experience with my two kids. It's not physical but its yelling..and my gosh I HATE to yell. It brings me back to when my dad yelled at us and I can feel the emotion explode from my body. 

"we were just playing" my 6 year old says..eyes swelling with tears. 

Why am I feeling this guilt? Because maybe what I'm doing isn't ok? 

The thing about guilt, is that when you feel it, you can stand up and apologize or make a change. Good can come from that guilt. Productivity can come from that guilt. 

When I find myself yelling at my kids and feel that instant regret and guilt I stand up and apologize. I let them know that mommy lost her cool for a second and that yelling may not have been the best approach. I let them know I am sorry.  

When I look at my kitchen and see the mess. See the clutter and feel overwhelmed and guilty about not doing anything about it, I create a system. A system that helps keep me more organized and do a couple things a day so that I don't feel overwhelmed and anxious. You can download my free guide here that has been super helpful.

Instead of me just playing on this cycle, over and over again. Yelling and apologizing. I step back and take a hard look at the root. What is causing my to yell, to feel anxious, overwhelmed in the first place?

I take a look at the potential triggers.

Is it past trauma? My phone? A person in my life? 

What's the cause of the out lash to begin with? What is the reason for the clutter? Why am I feeling anxious about a certain situation?


I often have to take a step back and re focus. Think about WHY I am feeling a certain way or acting a certain way. What is triggering me to behave like this?

I'm going to share with you one of my biggest triggers with my mom rage. You can also read more about mom rage here. This may relate to you. It may help open your mind up to what your own triggers are. 

  • My phone. When the kids are around and I find myself mindlessly scrolling through facebook, or doing work on my phone, I find myself more on edge for whatever reason. Anytime I have one of my "mom rage" episodes, it's typically when I am doing something on my phone.

    Knowing that is a trigger for myself and my "mom rage" I need to make it a priority to have phone free time when I get home from work, until my kids go to sleep.

    I need to start making it a priority to do my online work during the daytime, when my kids are at school. And that if I need to get something done when they are home to communicate that with them and let them know that mommy needs to do something on her phone for a moment. Communication is HUGE friend. Especially for the littles.

    I need to realize that the mindless scrolling is not worth it. If that's going to cause me to lash out, why allow it to happen? Setting a timer, for 15 minutes of scroll time, will be so much more productive for me.

    These are the positive steps I will be taking going forward.
So friend, when you are feeling the guilt from a not sit there and let it consume you. Stand up, apologize and take a positive step forward. Find the trigger for the mishap in the first place and make a change. 

Mommas. If you'd like to become part of our positive community, head over here to get the stepping stones to success for supporting your anxiety and feeling like an overworked mom. 

Black Bean Brownies

Black Bean Brownies

  • 1/2 cup cocoa butter (melted) 
  • 1/3 cup cocoa
  • 2 eggs
  • 1 cup pure maple syrup
  • 1/2 tsp vanilla
  • 3/4 cups flour
  • 1 cup black beans (rinse and blended) 
  • 2 tablespoon water
Combine all ingredients into a bowl, mix together until combined and bake at 350 degrees for 30 minutes. 

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Mom Rage

My Reality Of Mom Rage

Mom Rage.

Something we need to truly take seriously. It happens. It has happened to me more times than I can count. It could be over the smallest thing, just a look and I snap. I can feel the rage take over and my voice deepens. That's when I start to yell.

Instant regret. Every single time. 

Why did I lose my cool? What the fuck actually came over me at that moment? 

"You're a bad mom, you're the worst mom... I hate you" are words I hear from my 6 year old. It crushes me. I don't want to be labeled any of those things. All because of the mom rage episode I just had. Like a toddler, throwing a temper tantrum that cannot be controlled. 

So, what causes mom rage? This is the question I find myself asking. So I google. 

I dealt with postpartum anxiety, and still deal with anxiety. It's usually always related in some sense. If I'm feeling anxious or overwhelmed, you bet a mom rage episode will be happening. You can read my journey on that here. 

A lot of it is stuffing down all the things until there is just no more room to stuff. 

Stuffing the emotions in, the words I'm not voicing, the feeling of doing too much, being too busy, not taking care of my body and feeling under appreciated. All of these things play a huge role in mom rage. 

Mom, I want you to know I see you. I feel your pain, I feel your struggle. I am you. I have dealt and still deal with these things. 

It's about becoming aware. Becoming aware when it happens and finding the triggers. 

Is it your child, your spouse, your pet, your job, your coworkers? What is causing the build up of things on your body? It could be multiple of these but figuring it out is key. 

Once you figure out the things that are causing build up, causing you to stuff down all the shit, make it a priority to fix it. 

If it's the negative coworker, spouse or family member filling your cup with negative words, let them know that.. They may not even realize they are acting that way and it may help them make a shift. If not, do what's best for you, and that may mean cutting them off. 

Whatever it is, acknowledge it. Become aware and decide for yourself to make a change. 

For myself, meditation has been helpful. I do a mindful meditation before bed. 

Find and follow someone you enjoy for this. There are so many options. 

Write it out. Grab a journal, paper, your phone and just start writing all the things that are coming up.. Sometimes I get stuck and can't find the right words but as soon as I sit and get out the paper or even my laptop, my fingers or hand just goes....and then I have hundreds of feelings...down in front of me...a weight tends to be lifted.

Utilizing my wellness tools like essential oils have played a huge role. I've done some therapy sessions with these that have tapped into deeper memories and feelings and have allowed me to begin the process to heal. 

Talk with someone. Find a friend, a family member, a counselor who can listen to your words. Listen to the feelings and things you have been stuffing down. Holding it in is not OK. 

(just remember to not get stuck in a negative word vomit limbo with this person. Fill their cup as you want yours to be filled up.. because we don't want to be that negative person in someone else's life) 

Express your feelings and emotion to your partner. How can they really know how you're feeling about something if you don't tell them? How can they know you don't feel appreciated if you don't express that? They are your partner for a reason. Create open communication for the two of you. 

Take time for self care. Not just a massage, getting your nails done or a shopping spree. I mean real, raw self care. Diving more into you. Fueling your body the way it needs to be fueled. 

My friend Katherine had once said “The ideas of self care can be more damaging and destructive because your spending money you shouldn't be spending or your putting things into your body that are actually making you feel worse not better. Real self care teaches you the tools to manage your body and your mind so you can live the life you were created to live”. 

How powerful eh?

And lastly, eat a nutritional diet. Balanced, whole, healthy meals to fuel your body which in turn will fuel your mind. You can learn more about how the gut and brain connection works here!

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