Top three questions to ask your reflexologist before booking your first appointment

Have you considered reflexology? Here are my top 3 questions to ask before booking your first appointment.
Reflexology is a beautiful modality that almost every individual can benefit from. It is important to ask your reflexologist a few key questions before you book your first appointment with them. 

Q- Do you have an intake health history form?
It is extremely important that your reflexology therapist gains your health history before doing any work with you as a client. There are a few things that may consider you high risk for receiving a reflexology session so it is very important for your reflexology therapist to have a understanding of your past and current health history as well as goals. 
Filling out a form prior to your appointment will help set everyone up for success. 

Q- What are your qualifications? 
There are a lot of options for education when it comes to reflexology but it is important to know that your reflexology therapist has received the proper training prior to working on clients. You can ask them about the schooling and what certification they hold. 

Q- Are you registered and insured?
Being registered and insured isn't a requirement but it holds that reflexology therapist to a higher standard. Being registered requires members of that association to develop their knowledge and skill through continued education and professional development while increasing awareness of professionalism and public safety. Being insured insures a level of safety for both you and the therapist. 


What is reflexology good for? It’s not just a foot massage!


It's not just a foot massage! 
So, what is reflexology good for?

Reflexology has been around for centuries. The oldest known evidence is from an Egyptian pictograph dated 2500-2330 BC. 
The present day concept of reflexology was born in the early 1930s by a physician named Eunice Ingham who utilized zone therapy to map out foot reflexes. 


It's not just a foot massage! Reflexology is an automatic body response to finger pressure. Your reflexologist will utilize specific techniques, finger pressure and movements to stimulate various points on your feet, hands, face, ears or body. The specific techniques help your body attain and maintain its ideal balance. It is truly a beautiful thing. 

There are many reasons why I can suggest reflexology to potential clients but today, I will be sharing my top, number one reason as to why I'd recommend you booking in with a reflexologist in your area.

Reflexology helps your body to completely relax. In today's busy world, it really is something we could all use a little bit of. And I know you may be thinking ‘relax? That's the top reason? Why the heck would I need to relax?’ But if I’m being honest here (which I am) living in a state of constant stress and hectic go go go is really not great for our overall health and well being. Stay with me and I’ll explain why below. 

Our nervous system has two response systems. Our sympathetic and parasympathetic systems. These, under normal conditions, balance each other out. 

With the way of the world today, most of us abuse our sympathetic nervous system. When we abuse this system (the fight and flight) it will typically lead to chronic stress related conditions. It is actually estimated that 70-80 % of disorders are stress related. 

When your body goes into the parasympathetic state (rest and repair) your body goes into its normal functional state. The body relaxes, it does its best healing here and the effects of stress reduce. 
You can unlock my free video resource (under 4 minutes long) to find a few ways to relieve stress naturally. 

Reflexology has the ability to put clients in the state of rest and repair. The technique is generally not a painful one (unless we find areas of imbalance which may present as painful, ouchy spots) . 
Clients will often fall asleep on the table while receiving the service and typically tell me once their session is finished, they feel relaxed and as if they are floating on a cloud. They feel a weight is lifted from their shoulders and the feeling of post session euphoria . 
Not only is the session bringing them into that state of calm, it is also helping to increase the circulation and oxygen in their bodies. 

I encourage you to take a look into certified and registered reflexologist in your area. 
Make the call or send the email and be sure to ask them these top three key questions before booking your first session! 





DIY Hair Putty


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Are you tired of using hair products filled with questionable ingredients? This blog post has the perfect solution for you! 

I struggled to find a hair putty that met my standards, so I decided to make my own using natural ingredients.
With just beeswax, coconut oil, shea butter, honey, and essential oils of your choice (preferably from Young Living), you can create a sassy and textured look in no time. 

The mixture is easy to make and can be used on both wet and dry hair. 

While the current texture is hard, I suggest trying to whip the product while it's cooling to achieve a more creamy consistency. 

Overall, this DIY hair putty is a win for personal care products.


You'll find the ingredients and how to below. 

1/4 cup beeswax
2 tbs shea butter 
1/4 tsp honey 
Essential oils of choice 

Create a double boiler and add all of your ingredients minus the essential oils. 

Melt everything down on a medium to low heat. 

Once melted, remove from heat, pour in jar of choice and continue to stir. 

Add your essential oils (15 drops total) to your mix. 
I personally use cedarwood, rosemary and lavender and purchase my oils from Young Living.

Mix and let harden. 



I've used this on dry hair and wet. It does exactly what I required to create that textured looked. 
I would consider this an easy DIY and win for personal care products. 

Next time, I will try to whip the product while it's cooling to see if it leaves it a more creamy texture. 
The current state is hard but once you get it between the fingers, you can easily work it. 

Shifting To Positive Parenting


Shifting To Positive Parenting

I can vividly remember moments as a child that I was having a tantrum or acting out over something. I can remember sitting on the sofa crying and just wanting someone to ask me if things were ok. To assure me that it was safe to talk to them if needed. 

I had multiple siblings and parents who would laugh as I yelled, screamed, cried and swore because I was so upset. They called me "Helly" anytime I would have a tantrum. 

All I needed was for someone to talk and listen to what was going on. 


Times were different then. I think every generation has their experience with trauma and how they were raised. 

My parents would have experienced physical discipline. By hand or belt. That was the social norm then, even teachers would use that way of “teaching” right from wrong. 

Then my generation where you typically experienced a lot of yelling, blame and shame which ultimately set you up in an environment to lie, close off and not feel comfortable to talk it out. 


I wonder if that's a reason why anxiety is at an all time high for people in my generation. 

Growing up feeling really shitty about the emotions you were experiencing, that it was important to “tuffin up” which ultimately left you feeling worse about having emotions and what you were thinking. 

How can kids do better in that environment? How can kids learn and grow from the emotions and feelings they are experiencing? 



Being a mom to two girls can be challenging. The attitudes, the emotions, the lack of listening...but my heart wanted so badly to be a positive influence and role model in my girls lives. I wanted them to experience positive parenting, to know that I was and am a safe place for them. I wanted to break the cycle for them. 


BUT things started to take a turn...for the worse.



I was becoming a mom I didn't recognize....I found myself experiencing mom rage more often than I wanted to admit. 

I was finding myself going to bed sad or crying because of the yelling match I just had with my 6 year old. I was feeling extreme guilt over every little outrage that would happen. 


Bedtime was a nightmare. Often someone in tears. 


I was feeling at an all time low with my parenting strategies. My heart knew that a shift had to happen. 

I knew that the things I was doing (yelling, stomping off in frustration, playing the blame and shame game with my kids) needed to end. I knew positive parenting techniques were top priority and in order to break the cycle it had to start by me learning to change what I knew as parenting strategies. 

That's when I reached out on my social media and asked other mommas for some suggestions. Books, podcasts, groups..you name it, they recommended it to me. Something I’ve been beyond thankful for. 


I bought a few of the recommended books and followed some of the pages or groups and the wealth of information that is out there is truly amazing. 


So here I am, on this new journey of breaking the cycle. Committing to continue to educate myself on ways I can positively raise my children to be kind, smart, independent and strong women in this world. Who will stand up for the things they believe in, to not feel guilt over the emotions they are experiencing and to know that good and positivity trumps fear and negativity. 


Knowledge is power and when we come together to share the resources we have and the things we know, only good can come from that. 


I am so excited to lead a Positive Parenting book club over in my online community. Where we meet once a week to chat about current books we are reading to increase our knowledge on positive parenting strategies and implement them into our own lives. Thus making a major shift on the future generations. 


It's never to late to implement positive parenting tools with your kids. If making a shift to positive parenting is a journey you want to start, feel free to head over to our free FB community for support. 

If you'd like to see what books we are reading in our book club, go ahead and click the button below to check out where we are and how you can grab your book to follow along!
 

Guilt


Guilt 
Have you ever just instantly felt guilt? 

Guilty of not being enough for someone. Not doing enough in the household. Not being a good enough mother. 

I have felt that guilt often. When I look around my kitchen and see the mess, I feel guilty for not cleaning it up..but to be honest.. some days I'm just exhausted. I'm overwhelmed. It spirals my anxiety a little more out of control. 

Guilt for the mom rage I experience with my two kids. It's not physical but its yelling..and my gosh I HATE to yell. It brings me back to when my dad yelled at us and I can feel the emotion explode from my body. 

"we were just playing" my 6 year old says..eyes swelling with tears. 

Why am I feeling this guilt? Because maybe what I'm doing isn't ok? 

The thing about guilt, is that when you feel it, you can stand up and apologize or make a change. Good can come from that guilt. Productivity can come from that guilt. 

When I find myself yelling at my kids and feel that instant regret and guilt I stand up and apologize. I let them know that mommy lost her cool for a second and that yelling may not have been the best approach. I let them know I am sorry.  

When I look at my kitchen and see the mess. See the clutter and feel overwhelmed and guilty about not doing anything about it, I create a system. A system that helps keep me more organized and do a couple things a day so that I don't feel overwhelmed and anxious. You can download my free guide here that has been super helpful.

Instead of me just playing on this cycle, over and over again. Yelling and apologizing. I step back and take a hard look at the root. What is causing my to yell, to feel anxious, overwhelmed in the first place?

I take a look at the potential triggers.

Is it past trauma? My phone? A person in my life? 

What's the cause of the out lash to begin with? What is the reason for the clutter? Why am I feeling anxious about a certain situation?

Triggers. 

I often have to take a step back and re focus. Think about WHY I am feeling a certain way or acting a certain way. What is triggering me to behave like this?

I'm going to share with you one of my biggest triggers with my mom rage. You can also read more about mom rage here. This may relate to you. It may help open your mind up to what your own triggers are. 

  • My phone. When the kids are around and I find myself mindlessly scrolling through facebook, or doing work on my phone, I find myself more on edge for whatever reason. Anytime I have one of my "mom rage" episodes, it's typically when I am doing something on my phone.

    Knowing that is a trigger for myself and my "mom rage" I need to make it a priority to have phone free time when I get home from work, until my kids go to sleep.

    I need to start making it a priority to do my online work during the daytime, when my kids are at school. And that if I need to get something done when they are home to communicate that with them and let them know that mommy needs to do something on her phone for a moment. Communication is HUGE friend. Especially for the littles.

    I need to realize that the mindless scrolling is not worth it. If that's going to cause me to lash out, why allow it to happen? Setting a timer, for 15 minutes of scroll time, will be so much more productive for me.

    These are the positive steps I will be taking going forward.
So friend, when you are feeling the guilt from a sittuation...do not sit there and let it consume you. Stand up, apologize and take a positive step forward. Find the trigger for the mishap in the first place and make a change. 

Mommas. If you'd like to become part of our positive community, head over here to get the stepping stones to success for supporting your anxiety and feeling like an overworked mom. 


 
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