Memory Reconsolidation is a natural process where we open a memory file, add new information, close (reconsolidate) it back up.
When we revisit a painful memory and smell the calming oils while the file is open we are adding safe, calming and grounding information to that memory. We typically find one of two things will happen.
1. The memory will break up and fade into the background.
2 The memory will become less intense, you will get clarity and new perspective that is positive.
Once the memory has been reconsolidated with this new positive information you will find it effortless to change.