Did you know you can fire your doctor?

Young mamas, did you know you can fire your pediatrician? For that matter, your own doctor?

I remember my aunt having complications after a surgery and just suffering with a reaction and as my mom relayed this story to me, I asked “did she ask the doctor why?” My mom responded with “no, she doesn’t question the doctors”.

Thankfully my mom had problems with medical treatments before I was even conceived and so by the time I was born she had a very deep distrust in doctors. I call it wisdom that always made her question things and not just accept what they had to say blindly. I’m so grateful she raised me that way, raised me to listen to my body and to research myself and to question EVERYTHING and to listen to our gut instincts.

Every mama has a gut instinct that God designed in us to help us protect our babies. Daddy’s too, but especially mamas. That’s why the mama bear in you comes out when your child is hurt or being bullied or is in crisis. It’s our job to protect our babies.

My late husband died when I was 6 weeks pregnant with Emma and so of course having gone through that loss, raising 4 other kids and being pregnant on my own was quite the emotional trauma. About two months after he died I felt like I couldn’t breathe and had mild chest pain. I panicked of course and went to hospital. They immediately did al the routine tests for heart attack and couldn’t find anything. I had told them how stressed I was after loosing my husband. (That DIDNT tip them off to ask more questions) They told me the last test they were going to perform was to check for clots in my lungs

and that they were going to inject me (while pregnant I might add) with a nuclear dye to see what showed up.

. Knowing what I know now about that dye, I can’t imagine injecting that into a mama without absolute necessity in a life threatening emergency. It should never been done lightly.

My mamas gut instinct started to question things as I was taught to NEVER put anything in your body while pregnant or nursing. No shots, no Tylenol, no coffee, no liquor, no smoking, nothing. It’s the most sacred time for a mother and baby to give your baby the best chance. The fact that they encourage and tell mamas to take shots now while pregnant should send alarm bells in your soul. It shouldn’t be done, ever......

So they wheel me to an area of the hospital that has skull and crossbones on all the doors and told me to sit and wait for the test. My internal alarms were going off, like “this is bad, run now, don’t let them do this.....I sat for approximately 5 minutes and then just left. I left the hospital. That still small voice inside me said ABSOLUTELY NOT, and so I just left the hospital. I didn’t feel they had my best interest at heart. They never asked me if I was panicked or stressed even with them knowing I had 4 kids at home and had just lost my husband. They asked nothing about my mental or emotional state.

When my oldest was 6 months old she had a terrible terrible infected rash on her bottom. Nothing I used worked so I took her to the doctor. My mom insisted vitamin E oil would work but I didn’t listen. The doctor gave me a cream to apply to her and it literally made it 10x worse in less than an hour. She couldn’t even sit up her butt was so bad after that. I called the doctor to tell her of the results and she advised to keep using the cream. I said “I’m not doing that when it just made it 10x worse, the doctor than replied, “if your not going to do what your told than don't call me” and proceeded to hang up on me.

. The mama bear in me rose up and said “your fired”, and I found a pediatrician that would listen to my concerns and not act like they were god. I finally used vitamin E oil like my mama said and it was gone in three days.

My mom was hospitalized for the first time in 50 years about 4 years ago. Candy stripers were still a thing when she was last in the hospital, giving birth to me actually.

I stayed with her all week overnight because she was scared to be there. I stopped a nurse from giving her the wrong medication at one point, because I watched and listened and asked questions. (There are great nurses and doctors out there but they are overworked and tired, you need to be vigilant and observant when you are in the hospital, research from your phone all medications they are prescribing before you take them if it’s not an emergency.). ALL the doctors that were there would sit down at her bedside and ask her how she had stayed so healthy all these years with no medications. One doctor said he has never met a patient in 30 years in the US that had never had a medication. He sat with her and asked her to teach him what she did. She literally said, “I eat at home, I take vitamins and herbs and I stay away frim doctors like you”

. He was quite impressed. At the end of her stay her cardiologist told her to take the meds he gave her and she asked “what about all my herbs I take daily, Ashwaganda, Ginkgo, Oregano?” He looked at her and said “I don’t know what any of those are, they SOUND dangerous, so just stick to what I gave you!”

Not that she was going to listen to him, especially after his comment of not even knowing what they were, but after he walked out a nurse who was in the room walked over to her and said “ma’am, keep taking what your taking, they are all safe with what your on, stay healthy like you are, your doing amazing!!”

When Emma was a baby she reacted horribly to the childhood “shots”. More severe than the older kids. My mom had always told me they were poison and not to give them to the kids but the doctors would tell us that we were going to kill our kids if we didn’t. But something inside me said “listen to Emma’s body, something is not right”. So I said no more, no more for any of the kids after seeing what they were doing to Emma. The doctor said I was harming her and I said “the shots are harming her, Why can’t you see that with her reactions”. All her reactions stopped when I stopped the shots. She was never healthier. I fired that pediatrician and found one that did testing on Emma and found out ONE of the reasons she was reacting and said “these shots could kill her because of this issue, She should never receive any!” Finally a pediatrician who allowed my mamas instinct and talked things through with me instead of acting like I was an idiot.

So so so many more examples of why to trust your gut....too many to mention.

Mamas, we spend so much time with our babies, we know them best. Don’t allow anyone to make you second guess yourself. Find a doctor who will work with you, listen to you and respect you as the gatekeeper of your home. It’s supposed to be a partnership, not them over lording your life when they see you one time a year not day to day. They are out there, you may have to ask around but that is how I found my wonderful doctor for my kids. We never went to well visits because why would I bring them in if they are well? It doesn’t make sense. We went only if they really needed it and they were healthier for it.

In the Bible it says that the older woman should teach the younger women, so grab yourself a mentor and soak up the wisdom of life