Let's talk QUALITY TIME:
Undivided attention, active listening (that's all the empathy sounds and little feedback words that come so naturally to some of our favourite people), doing things together, making it a priority to be together even if its getting a job done as a team, and understanding dialogue is the fuel to fill the love tank of anyone with this preference.
My son, Andrew is expressive and verbal and used to follow me around the house talking at me all day. I had never experienced this before. I was overwhelmed by the constant incoming noise. As an introvert I try to dial down external stimuli to leave room for processing my inner world - thoughts, reflections, visions, connections. But in order to love Andrew, I needed to make sure he felt heard. Thankfully in homeschool we had daily undivided time to read and talk about the world together. This became a favourite time for both of us.
When Lance and I started dating, I’d get anxious when I saw how full his calendar was. I would only relax when I saw a L&P date day coming up. I could handle our individuality, but in order to feel loved, I had to feel like time together was a priority.
To Speak the Love Language of Quality Time:
+ Set Dates: I love gifts of coupons with ideas of things we can do together. Take time to plan meaningful dates.
+ Share childhood memories to really understand your person - tell shared stories and laugh together!
+ Relax together doing something one or both of you enjoy.
+ Make a list of things you would enjoy doing together.
A Homeschool Mom of eight children made her New Year's Resolution to spend at least 5 minutes of everyday with each child giving her full attention - not just talking while she got a task done from her list. That is the simple gift of quality time!
Incorporate Essential Oils:
Help your loved one identify their mood or needs and then choose a diffuser blend together to create a safe, supportive atmosphere to share heart conversations. Allow the fragrance to calm and focus you so that you can be fully present. Experiment together to find your signature fragrance that will recall these intimate sharing times anytime you smell it! You are creating your own special memory scent!
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