If you're a mom, chances are you MAY be familiar with the concept of boundaries.
Although, I am actually not as surprised to learn that many people grew up without really knowing much about boundaries and how to best implement them.
In case that is you, let's start defining what a boundary is!
A boundary is simply a line that you draw in the sand, so to speak, that delineates what you will and will not tolerate. For example, you may have a boundary with your kids that says you will not tolerate hitting. Or, you may have a boundary with your spouse that says you need at least 30 minutes of alone time every day.
One way that I define a boundary is that if you feel "icky" or unsettled, then a boundary has been crossed. Likely, it was not set or clear to even know that would be ok or not.
The thing about boundaries is that they are incredibly powerful. Not only do they help to keep us safe and healthy, but they also help to maintain our relationships. After all, it's hard to be close to someone if we don't feel like we can be ourselves around them. So today, let's talk about the power of boundaries and how they can help us to achieve mental wellness.
Why Boundaries are Important
One of the main reasons why boundaries are so important is because they help us to stay healthy both physically and emotionally. For example, let's say you have a boundary with your boss that says you will not work more than 40 hours per week. This boundary ensures that you have time for your family and friends, time to pursue your hobbies, and time to take care of yourself. Without this boundary, it would be all too easy to get caught up in work and neglect the other important areas of your life.
Another reason why boundaries are important is because they help us to nurture our relationships. Think about it—would you rather be friends with someone who is always available 24/7 or someone who has healthy boundaries? Chances are, you would rather be friends with someone who has healthy boundaries because they respect your time and space. And when we feel respected by others, we are more likely to feel close to them.
Finally, boundaries are important because they help us to achieve mental wellness. When we have clear boundaries, we know our limits and we are less likely to put ourselves in situations that are harmful or stressful. This can go a long way in reducing anxiety and promoting peace of mind.
If you're feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or just plain exhausted, it may be time to set some boundaries. Boundaries are powerful tools that can help us to stay healthy physically and emotionally while also nurturing our relationships. So don't be afraid to set some limits—your mental wellness will thank you for it!
If you're a mom, chances are you've said this phrase a million times: "I'm fine." You say it when your kids ask how you're feeling, when your partner asks how your day was, and even when your friends or family members inquire about your well-being. But the truth is, you're probably not fine. (Guilty!) You're exhausted, anxious, and maybe even a little bit resentful. So what can you do to take care of yourself? Here are 5 wellness tips for the exhausted mom.
1. Get enough sleep. This may seem like an impossible feat, but it's important to try to get at least 7-8 hours of sleep each night. If your kids are keeping you up at night, try to nap during the day when they're napping or in school. And if all else fails, coffee is always an option.
2. Eat healthy. Again, this one may be easier said than done, but it's important to fuel your body with nutritious foods. When you're tired, it's easy to reach for unhealthy junk food, but resist the temptation! Eating healthy will give you more energy in the long run.
3. Exercise. Yes, exercise is hard when you're tired, but it's worth it! Exercise releases endorphins that help improve your mood and alleviate stress. Besides, getting out of the house and moving your body is a great way to get some fresh air and clear your head.
4. Take breaks. When you're constantly on the go, it's important to schedule in some time for yourself. Whether it's taking a bath, reading a book, or going for a walk by yourself, taking breaks will help you recharge and refocus.
5. Seek professional help if necessary. If you find that you're struggling to cope with anxiety or depression, don't be afraid to seek professional help from a therapist or counselor. Mental health is just as important as physical health!
If you need support on your journey, let's chat. My passion is helping exhausted, anxious mamas conquer burnout and achieve better health and balance in their lives. You can achieve the balance you are looking for. <3
xoxo, Judith
